The Sibling Grief Club

I am a member of a club that I really hate participating in, but without it I would not be the person I am today.

Every now and then required meetings call for me to revisit my membership and when it happens I am reminded just how much I really don’t like being apart of this order.

My Brother Jim and Jessa

It is the sibling grief club.

Required meetings tend to happen at the most awkward times and honestly, they can be brutal.

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What Are You Going to Do About It Today?

Our communities are going through hell.

Being a parent, spouse, employee and citizen has taken on a new demand for our level of engagement.

Watching the news this weekend, I just kept thinking what am I going to do about it?

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Friday with Freda ~ Missing Home

She misses West Virginia.

I sense it. I know it. I catch her trying looking at old photos, gazing out the window, wondering if she will ever see the likes of her home there ever again.

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Book Review: Thin Places by Mary DeMuth

Last week my world got rocked. One of my long-time Twitter friends, and contributing editor over at The High Calling, Cheryl Smith introduced me to the work of Mary DeMuth. Cheryl had recommended her book Thin Places. I’m a little embarrassed to say that as much as I read, I had not come across any of DeMuth’s work before now. I felt like I had been living under a rock. I can’t believe what I had been missing!

Starting to get a summer cold that was floating around, I stayed home from work one day and thought I would catch up on some reading. I was not expecting this book to wring me inside out the way it did. It totally grabbed me by the throat. Mary’s story had such weight and urgency to it, and even more than that—her spiritual wisdom and depth shone a flashlight into the hidden hurt places of my own dark heart. This allowed for God to whisper to me about my need for His continued healing and growth from past grief and disappointments. Never fun, but always necessary if as a Christian I truly am seeking a crucified life through Jesus.

This book also gave me insight into my work that I was not expecting.

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This Memorial Day I Choose to Focus on the Land of the Living

I shall walk before the LORD in the land of the living. ~Psalm 116:9

This is one of my favorite scriptures. Memorial Day is a time set aside in our culture that we remember the dead, but this verse also reminds me that I am in a world that is very much alive. A great paradox.

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A Grace Filled Mother’s Day ~ Encourage Single Moms Through A Special Tea

Some days God just gives you an extra dose of blessing. He allows you to step in where He is already working and join in on the fun. This Mother’s Day weekend I was asked to speak to a group of single mothers who gather as a support group through a local church.

My time spent with them at their special Mother’s Day tea was beautiful.

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A Lesson in Being Grateful ~ How God Used Ann Voskamp to Heal My Heart

Last year I picked up a book that saved my spirit. I was turning into a bitter, nasty person and God used this book to begin to heal my heart. I still can’t completely explain what happened, but God led this cynical, grieved woman into a local Christian book store kicking and screaming. It was just a few months after my father died unexpectadly, and through a series of events I was serving as Executrix for his affairs and had also become the primary caregiver for my Grandma Freda. I should also mention here that my mother had also just died two years prior to all of this as well. 2009-2011 were not stellar years for me personally.

I walked into that book store for one purpose. I was there to purchase materials for the Family Life Services waiting room. What I came out with was a lovely new book release. A new book that I purchased for sole reason that I loved the artwork on the dust jacket. I bought a book for the cover. I’m not making this up. 

 

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The Thaw. Thoughts on Grief

She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts. ~George Eliot

This time of year I refer to as The Thaw. The season when winter is almost behind us, and spring is truly trying to make her debut.

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